'I was waiting for so long'

Today, I realised something.

I've often heard that I don't need to live in my dream. If I have goals, I need to write them down, I need to visualise them once or twice a day, and I need to put them in a place or places where I can see them very often to remind me what I want to reach, and that is it. I don't need to live my dream life. It is a goal. It is the future, not the present. And it is true. I can't argue with it. But... yet.

I think our biggest mistake is that we know we can't live in our imagined future life, and yet we still do it.

Just imagine that: We are in love. Everybody is or was in love. This is the easiest way to explain what I want to say today. So... we are in love. And what do we think all the time? How will it be when we will be with our loved ones? How will life be? How will the future be with that person? We imagine what will happen, how and when... We are waiting for that person all the time. We have imaginations which fill our days, months... in the worst case, years waiting, dreaming, planning... But... life never... and I say, NEVER!!!!!!!! brings what we imagined or wished for. No. Life always brings what it wants. And the result is usually not what we wanted or dreamed of. When we realise this is not what we wanted, we feel we want something else. And what are our reasons for changing that thought? What are our reasons for staying where we are not happy? These: Oh... I had been waiting for that person for a long time. Or... Oh... I'm just getting used to it. Or... I deserve this. It is my fault. She/he can change. Or.... (my favourite) you will see, it will be good, just wait. HELLO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THESE ARE NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!! GONNA HAPPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The shit will always be shit. And if we stay, we will miss life's joys in the present. Just because we're living in our imagined future, we imagine something that is 'never gonna happen' with somebody. And because 'Oh... I was waiting for him/her for so long.' These thoughts are the biggest dreams and life killers. And this is sad. But this happens so many times in so many lives...